Actually, yes, we (the one family member designated to be the contact, so that they don't get a zillion calls) DOES call, but is very much getting the "don't call us, we'll call you." She doesn't want to bug the detective, but until you have had a family member murdered for no reason other than he was at work, it's tough. As for why we don't just wait, well, too many instances of - oh, we didn't tell you that? - to be sure that we would get a call if appropriate. Imagine learning of the arrest of