how bout this.....if it looks like a duck, smells like a duck, etc. I know nothing of this person or the allegations other then what I've read on this site. but if you have to explain away all these incidents....I mean more then one and it starts looking fishy, if your spouse was constantly telling you why he/she was gone all nite had condoms in their pockets, strange phone calls in the middle of the nite, etc. you would think they were cheating rite? I'm also just sayin